How ironic it is that being a good student is what stops us from being successful. But it does.
Think about it. Steven Spielberg dropped out of college to go his own way. Think Steve Jobs. Think Richard Branson. Think a lot of different people. And then ask yourself how many of them are women that you can think of. That one is harder. Oprah comes to mind. Who else?
Each of them said, "Hey wait a second, I have to do things differently in order to feel really happy, really jazzed, really fulfilled!" and then they went out and did it!
Meanwhile, here the rest of us are, trying to figure out "how" to go do what we love, instead of BEING what we love.
Success in its traditional description has run its course.
How miserable do we have to be to prove that this framework doesn't really work for us as human beings?
This is why I love acting, and video: it requires that you FEEL something - that you acknowledge your humanness. That is what has been kept out of our work in creating our entrepreneurial would-be masterpieces. That is what we have been shamed for having - emotions - in the workplace, which is the biggest irony of all because to be human is to have emotions. Those who call anger acceptable, and tears "too emotional", are missing a boat that no woman wants to be on with them.
Do we want to be successful in our lives? Do you want to feel and know, on your death bed, that you have done and been everything you could have? Do you want to feel that you lived fully? In order to do this, we need to feel, to be self-aware, and to be visible in our own lives.
To do anything else is to opt for safety, or good-enoughness, and leave the planet saying, "Ohmygod, what I could have been if only I had been courageous enough to feel...to choose what made me feel fecking fantastic...to try something even if I failed...to believe in myself instead of in externals!"
Stepping into our uniqueness is the most important thing of all. Certainly, no one else can do that for us. Stepping outside the rules - that is what calls to us. Daring to show us to others - that is what video, and speaking, and choosing your own path does for us.
It's time for us to choose.
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